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HOW I ALLOWED MYSELF TO BE SETUP
Have you ever felt betrayed, angry, and
taken advantage of by another? I was last week by a prison
inmate I have developed a relationship with over the past
couple of years. She lied to me several times about needing
money for education. How could I give freely and trust it was
being used for classes, you might ask? I am an aware person
and seem to have my wits about me. To trust that the money I
gave her would be used for classes without checking with a
higher authority was definitely unwise. I see that now and
will not let it happen again.
Looking at the situation as an outside
observer, it was predictable. However, from my own vantage
point at the time, the situation was not so clear. Sometimes I
can perhaps be too trusting, always giving others the benefit
of the doubt. I see this as a good trait in myself. After this
experience, I am a little smarter and more aware and will use
more discernment in the future when placing my trust in a
person. At this point, I see that it serves no purpose to stay
in a victim mode and replay the situation over and over in my
I forgive myself for being naïve and see
the need for wiser boundaries in this relationship. Only I can
set those boundaries. The inmate is unable to do so at this
time and is simply doing what she knows best: get her needs
and wants met without much thought to integrity, values, or
how her actions will affect her in the long run. Over time,
she may learn from me that there are healthier ways to get her
Where is your Achilles' tendon, your blind
spot, where do you assume certain things without using your
logical mind? As we learn the places where we are vulnerable,
we can learn to make choices appropriate to safeguarding
ourselves without victimizing others.
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I always love all your articles and may I ask you a question?
How can one recover from a grief over a loss and you
don’t even know what type of loss it is?
I am in my 50’s and have grieved over a “loss”
all my life. I
have searched and searched, but I could never find out what it
was. It’s so
weird I keep loosing things, even relationships, all sorts of
I think it’s myself, but I don’t know when, where, or how.
Can you help me?