By Rob
Cross
….And the sky is blue.
And oh, by the way, your partner is Exactly who they are,
regardless of how you feel about it!
In relationships, our
fighting our partner is like fighting the sky’s blue-ness!
The illusion we create is this: "I’m upset because of
who they are or with what they did". But the reality of
it is, our upset has nothing to do with TREM….and everything
to do with our FIGHTING who they are or what they did!
Here’s the good news we
just don’t want to hear: "I’m upset at you because
I want you to change"! That’s right! I get upset
when I want my partner to do or say something differently than
what they did or said. Right? It’s that simple! And the good
news about that is, when I GET that, I then no longer have to
WAIT for my partner to change!
Then I’m then Free to
Live and Love without holding back! And that perpetuates more
and more of the love I really want.
Friends, make peace with
the reality that, pigs just don’t bark and the people in
your experience are who they are (that’s right,
even the jerk who cut you off this morning on the freeway).
Am I saying settle for? Nope. I’m saying Stop Fighting it.
Remember, whatever you fight gets Bigger and Uglier.
We’re doing this love
thing upside down. Did you know that the first base to any
change, is to Accept the darn thing you wanna change?
As you truly allow your
partner be WHO THEY ARE, then your expectations begin to
dissipate into Appreciation for exactly who they are. And
believe me, you’ll get FAR more of what you want from them
by Appreciating them vs. Fighting them. You know what I mean?
It’s called spirit of Cooperation. You’re on the same team
kinda deal.
Make peace with the sky
being blue. It’s gonna stay blue regardless of how you feel
about it. And when you’re at peace with it being so, you
then have all your energy and creative resources available.
And likewise, as you stop beatin’ your partner up with your
demands that love looks exactly the way you ordered it up,
then life works and the love you always had to hog tie to
keep, begins to just stick around and grow!
Rob Cross
www.LifeUnclogged.com
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