By Rob
Cross
What’s
the first thing you would do if I gave you a rose bud?
Smell it? Admire it? Go
oooh and ahhh? Run find a vase to put it in?
And then what would you do?
Well, after a couple of
hours, you’d pass by & see that it’s not opening yet.
So in anger or fear you’d probably stick your thumbs in the
fat middle of it and start prying it open, right?
Naw! Of course you wouldn’t!
Well then, why are we continually doing so in our
relationships?
My guess is….right now
you are experiencing some sort of angst in your relationship.
Maybe it’s not moving as fast or as slow or as right or left
as you prefer. So you do what most of us do… stick your darn
thumbs in there and start prying & forcing it. From upset
& anger to holding back & withdrawing. We try it all,
from over-pleasing to white-lying. And if that doesn’t work,
how ‘bout a good ol’ game of tit for tat, or back biting,
maybe try a little peace keeping. We get real clever, trying
anything to pry and bend and twist that darn thing into what
we want it to look like. That’s doing Love upside down,
friends!
Life teaching the pig to
sing…..all we do is waste our time and frustrate the poor
pig!
My friends, your job with
the bud is to appreciate it and nurture it! That’s it.
And then what happens? Miracle of miracles, it unfolds and
blooms. How it does so, I can’t begin to tell you. But it
does. And it’s this miracle step that we’re
forgetting in our relationships!
Tell you what; notice what
you’re doing right now that’s beyond merely
appreciating and supporting your partner. The truth is,
anything beyond that is likely your subtle attempts to
manipulate and force it to go where you want it to go, and it’s
those attempts that are bringing you exactly what you
DON’T want…A bunch o’ broken peddles laying on the
floor! We can’t push a string, and we can’t hog-tie Love.
Love’s a funny thing. It’s
like a cat. Let it stay, it stays. But keep it from going, it’s
outta here!
Retire from the business of
trying to KEEP love, and just relax, BE YOURSELF and Allow it
the space to breathe and expand exactly how & where it
wants. It cannot Flow while you’re trying to control it.
Funny thing is, you have no control over it anyway! It’s
called Faith. And faith is easy when we feel in control and
when life is going according to our plans, but mighty hard
when it’s not. Right?
When you Let go of it
having to look YOUR way, like the rose bud, you’ll become an
accomplice to a miracle. As you "let go", your
energy and vitality return, and the love unfolds to a
brilliance as perhaps you’ve never known.
Rob Cross
www.LifeUnclogged.com
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