By Nancy Moonstarr
I began this topic with thoughts of
how to create love. Love is something we all want to experience and a beginning
for us in any endeavor or experience we undertake-even if we don't recognize it
as love. "Under the taking on" of something, we feel some stirring in us. Next,
I decided to ask what love feels like to others. Similar answers came back
whether it referred to romantic or other forms of Love; "it's sweet or feels
calming, just how I want or right".
Life takes on a new feel and
ok-ness with being in a place of love. Finances, divorce and changes around
kids, job and other responsibilities somehow move to a less urgent place. We
feel 'in the flow'. Possibilities open up and healing from past hurts is
In an instant, life's past can be
transformed. Recall that love of anyone or thing begins this luscious movement
away from negative contamination or condemnation of self or other. Being in love
with anything such as Nature, an animal, baby, new romantic partner, or warmth
from a bath can begin this process.
What to do when we get stuck or
need a nudge? Well, here are some suggestions. Create a list of ten or as many
people you would call or email or contact if you really needed help beyond
yourself. This list of others can potentially give one a 'jump start' on this
task. I say 'jump start' because the fact remains that we all carry love with us
every moment anyway, but sometimes we forget. When we forget we may be too far
down the rabbit hole to get ourselves back on track so need to lean on another.
A therapist, on-line help, videos or attending a group designed to assist in
this way may also help.
To refresh this process for
1. Breathe as deep as is
comfortable and soften or close your eyes.
2. Notice what thoughts are going
on in your head and attempt to not judge them.
3. Clear your mind as best you can,
by removing of at least acting as if thoughts were absent.
4. Chose an intention, a thought,
an idea of what you'd like to get into your mind to experience.
5. Image yourself having and
feeling what it feels like to have the intention even momentarily.
6. Acknowledge any resistance.
Further, you can write out what you
experience to the above items. If you find you cannot get a feel for what it
would be like to attain your intention, ask a close other to do it for you and
describe exactly how it feels to be that. Every time you create that feeling,
that is associated with creating what it is that you want or your intention, you
deliver a positive message to your neurons, brain and environment. That
intention sets you in motion to move into it, or get more of it. Again, if you
need to think about someone else's eyes can see and feel it, then use them to
assist you in moving in this direction. Remember to write about any resistance
and see how far back in time you are able to go to identify that which is
stopping you. See if you can identify precisely what prevents your intention
from reaching you. Write, read, seek help and research into this to release or
at least identify a beginning place to heal next. Remember, there is always
help. If more than one person has recommended a direction to take or help to
seek, it's probably worth your while to check that out and follow-up with their
suggestion. These precious principles will come up again in future articles and
group work... so get familiar with them.