By Suzanne E. Harrill
How is your relationship with your body? Are
you dissatisfied with the way you look? Do you secretly or
openly say you want your body to be different? Maybe you
criticize your complexion, hair, or the shape of your body?
Maybe you weigh more than you did a couple of years ago, have to
constantly watch the scale to maintain your current weight, or
are at the other end of the continuum wanting to gain weight? Do
you focus on your body image much of the time, watching your
diet and exercising, yet your weight does not budge? Let us
delve deeper to explore how we live our lives and can view our
bodies differently. It is important, if you really want to love
and accept yourself, to look at more than the physical aspects
of yourself. Let us look at our lives and bodies from the
perspective of the ego versus the higher Self. We will end with
exercises and tips guiding you to live from a deeper spiritual
We are each the artist of our own life,
including choices we make regarding our looks, what we eat, how
we spend our time, the people we spend time with, our
relationships, etc. The quality of our choices can be motivated
by ego, the little self that is concerned with what others
think, how we are doing in comparison with others, and competing
to be number one, to name a few. Here we either win or lose, and
it keeps us stuck in that thinking where we are either okay or
not okay. The second way to make choices is by tuning into our
Divine Nature, true Self, or soul. Here we want to be the best
person we can be, living our life to the fullest, growing daily
in awareness, healing our issues, building fulfilling
relationships, adding goodness to the world and the lives of
others, developing and expressing our gifts and talents, living
with intention and mindfulness, etc. Here, health and wholeness
rule. There is an emphasis on enjoying our life and appreciating
our body, which we love and care for because they allow us to
have a vehicle for this life in which to learn and grow, heal,
explore, and enjoy. Paradox enters here, where two opposites can
happen at the same time; we can have something that is not
perfect about our bodies or that we judge about our bodies and
at the same time appreciate such things as its functionality or
the parts we do like. It does not mean we give up improving how
we look, how we fit into our clothes, or how we feel ─
simply, we appreciate and accept where we are today, knowing the
body allows us to experience the fullness of life. We can still
set goals for self-improvement even when we learn to accept our
bodies in the moment.
How do we make the shift from an ego-centered
life to that of a transcendent life? Awareness is the key and
the first step moving us in that direction. Whatever problems,
issues, or lessons you deal with, including not loving your body
or not taking care of your well-being, you can move in a more
transcendent direction by remembering who you really are, a
spiritual being having a human experience. Anything that keeps
you stuck prevents you from growing and evolving. Just
remembering that there are other ways to view impasses helps you
stay centered, progress, and move in healthier, happier
directions. Taking risks outside your frame of reference are
needed to improve your life, including working positively with
your body image. Getting in touch with and exploring your true
nature can be done by going to therapy, reading books,
meditating, taking classes and workshops, and talking to others
more aware than yourself.
To move in a new direction set some alone
time aside to ask yourself some soul-searching questions.
Letís use desiring your body weight to be less as a starting
point (substitute one of your own issues if this does not fit).
Ask yourself questions, such as, "Why do I want to weigh
less? How will my life be different if I lose weight? What
patterns do I know contribute to my body being over my desired
weight; examples: not listening to when I am hungry and full,
overeating, usually taking second helpings, eating dessert
often, snacking on bread and butter, drinking wine every
evening? Where does my free-will choice suffer by not dealing
with my emotional issues? Am I ready to study myself in order to
determine what I am really hungry for and then take risks to get
my real needs met? Do I love myself? What is my most negative
thought about my body? When did I begin having negative thoughts
about myself? Am I ready to heal my low self-esteem? What
choices do I need to make to begin a new path? What new beliefs
must I incorporate in order to achieve different results?
These types of questions help move you out of
a negative rut by going to a deeper process beyond focusing
simply on the physical aspects of weight management, such as how
much you exercise and the calories you consume. They get you
thinking about emotional and mental issues affecting your
physical body. These questions are not a simple fix. They begin
a healing process. Journaling about your answers may be helpful.
Along with this type of self-inquiry there are helpful practices
to deepen your relationship with your true Self and, thus, live
a more fulfilling life. We will end here with two exercises to
catalyze your inner, transcendent journey to help move you out
of your ego into your true Self. Remember you are the artist
creating your own life.
Begin your day with a spiritual practice. You
may have one already. If not use this routine for a start:
acknowledge 1-5 things for which you are grateful, set an
intention for the day, and say affirmations to yourself.
If you have never focused on what is working
in your life, expressing gratitude may be a new direction for
your mind, so start with one thing that you are thankful for; it
can be as simple as appreciating your growing awareness, or that
you are alive, or that you have a job, or someone smiled at you
yesterday. Over time you will notice things as they happen in
your day that are blessings.
Second, set an intention. Examples of an
intention for the day might be, to notice and identify how you
feel once an hour (happy, sad, rushed, peaceful), to be more
loving to your partner or family members, to let go of anger as
you observe it in yourself, to allow time to nurture yourself,
to journal write, or to feel your inner, spiritual strength. If
you need outside help to get started, randomly open an
affirmation book, such as my Seed Thoughts book, and use
that topic as your intention.
Third, say positive things to yourself. It
can be one thing such as I choose to take care of myself today.
Following are two passages that I have written that may get you
started, I am My Self and Affirmations for Inner Healing.
I Am My Self
I am a worthy and precious being, an
expression of Life. I am re-awakening to the inner knowing that
I am whole and complete. I stop hiding from living and being my
true Self. I unconditionally love who I am.
The next step in the greater plan for my life
is unfolding much like a rose bud beginning to bloom. I accept
with excitement the challenge and responsibility of going to
greater degrees of awareness. I spend quiet time alone daily to
listen to and trust the greater wisdom within me to unfold,
guiding me in making wise choices that support my growth.
I accept myself right now, this moment, the
way I am, even if there are things about me I do not like and
want to change. As I grow in awareness, I discover ways to heal
and release habits, traits, and patterns of thinking and
behaving that do not support me or reflect my true nature.
Inner peace grows daily as I forgive all
people and events that have wounded me, including myself. I
nourish myself with a loving support system that encourages me
to take the risks I choose to take in order to grow and change.
I accept their support when I stumble and fall, make mistakes,
get confused, meet unbearable challenges, or stop my growth
because of frustration or fear. I also allow them to celebrate
with me when I reach mountaintops of striving and achievement.
I embrace each day as I live my life with
ease, joy, awareness, and creativity. Resistance to what must be
accepted melts away as I gladly move forward to change the
things I can as I play the hand I was dealt.
I love being who I am Ė My Self.
Affirmations for Inner Healing
1. I am at peace with myself and
accept my oneness with all life.
2. I draw from the wellspring of the
Source to fill my heart with love, joy, peace, beauty, and
grace. As I fill myself, I have more than enough to nourish
myself and others.
3. My wisdom guides me moment by
moment to know how to act, how to think, and what to say.
4. I accept the rhythm of life with
its periods of great activity and fellowship with others and its
slow periods giving me the opportunity to assimilate what I have
learned and tune into myself.
5. I feel safe and secure, knowing the
greater wisdom of the Universe (Spirit, God, Higher Power) is
always there to listen, comfort, guide, teach, and heal me
through meditation and prayer.
6. As I learn to connect more and more
with my true Self, I give up all pain and suffering that I have
caused myself by my misperceptions, beliefs, attitudes, actions,
and choices. I fully accept responsibility for my life and find
deeper meaning behind all experiences.
7. I forgive myself for being unaware
and for allowing situations to continue that did not support my
highest good and spiritual intentions.
8. I forgive others in order to stop
the wounds of the past from coloring the present. I accept the
power of Love to heal all pain and suffering so I can extend
love to all others, even those whom I choose not to have an
active relationship with, those that I islike, or those who have
hurt me. Current grievances roll off my back like water off a
9. In my new world nothing is a
mistake, everything is of value for the upliftment of my
consciousness. I take full responsibility to be the gardener of
my life, continually planting new seeds of transformation and
pulling the weeds of my miscreations.
10. Today is a new beginning in
consciousness; and I use my creative power to draw to me
situations and people that help me heal emotionally and
spiritually, to move forward, and to actualize my potential.
11. I rejoice in my new life as I live
from the full place of Unconditional Love, Light, and Power. I
play the hand I was dealt willingly, joyfully, creatively, and
with awareness. I love myself and appreciate my life.
Note: to hear these 11 affirmations
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Take a minute as you are
awakening, going to sleep, or sitting at your computer. Close
your eyes, deep breathe, and relax. Breathe in to the count of 4
or 6 or 8, filling your lungs, pause, then breathe out to the
same count. If you are lethargic and need more energy make the
in-breath longer than the out-breath. If you are too energetic
and want to settle down, breathe out longer than you breathe in.
Image your heart as a radiating sun with a point in the center.
Feel energy radiating from this point, nourishing all the cells
of your body.
Allow the energy to go beyond
your physical form to penetrate all invisible aspects of
yourself, the emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies. Keep
going and see the rays of this loving sunshine moving to fill
your room, house, office, neighborhood, city, country, and the
world. Feel this unconditional love being absorbed by all others
in your life and the world. Feel deep peace, joy, and your
Divine Nature guiding you.