Personal Growth

A New Life

by Gary Bate

We are all here, individually and collectively, to evolve ourselves and thus humanity as a whole; beyond our existing known boundaries. This means that individually we are to change from our existing state of being to become a higher, more evolved state of being.

As discussed earlier, our existing personalities are a combination of our inherited genes and the social conditioning of the society in which we live. Different cultures impose different conditioning upon the minds of their citizens by virtue of their way of life. It all amounts to a limitation of mind.

To change from the personality we’ve ‘picked up’ into a new personality of our own design, is the evolutionary task we all face. This is a task that flies in the face of family, tradition, culture, religion, color, status, wealth, fashion, gender, fame etc.; indeed: it flies in the face of all the accepted values in our societies.

Never before have we been given so much knowledge to challenge our inherited belief systems and to intimidate the self-imposed limitations of our minds. How we develop into the future can only be limited by our own level of acceptance and our own willingness to let go of the past. And our unwillingness to let go of the past is evidence of our own lack of understanding or outright stubbornness towards change.

What we need to develop is our own ideal; not one that we have been conditioned to accept but one that is our own creation. How do we want to be? Notice I didn’t say, what role or status do we want to play or achieve within an existing framework. We are not here to simply fit in with modern-day society, although our politicians would want us to think that way!

Evolution is not about being accepted by an existing image but is about changing and moving beyond the boundaries of that accepted image; the exact image that is pressed to us every day by the mind control that advertising and marketing is so good at.

So we must become like the caterpillar that transforms itself into the beautiful butterfly. The caterpillar represents the old personality and the butterfly represents a new life that has yet to unfold.

Firstly, the caterpillar has to dream the dream of its new form. It goes into the cocoon and it liquefies. It dissolves the past and out of the same energy, it forms the new life in accordance with its dream. In evolutionary terms, we are all the same as the caterpillar that has yet to embark upon its remarkable transformation.

We can never evolve beyond our own level of acceptance. Very few people will be able to accept that they can be a Christ until they witness, first hand, somebody else being in that state of purity. Even then their own acceptance will rely on their acceptance of equality with the Christ-like personality. One’s understanding and acceptance of involution (briefly described earlier and later in my article ‘The Children of Blue Light’) is essential to this acceptance of equality.

Your ideal is not supposed to fit any existing image because that is just image worship. What is important is that your ideal is greater than your past and that you genuinely strive to become it. It is far greater to have an ideal that you struggle to become than have no ideal at all or one that represents no more than social acceptance.

Once the template has been designed in your mind then the individual components can be formulated and worked upon. These are the elements of the Great Work that spiritual masters have spoken about and are recorded as personal affirmations that are focussed upon on a daily basis (refer article The Night Watchman).

A diligent effort is required to replace the demons from your past thinking. Only when the new knowledge is added to the quagmire of your mind, will the alchemical process start to take place. The metamorphosis of the caterpillar is likened to the human alchemical process of turning the lead of the past into the gold of spiritual truth.

Whether it is the raising of the Phoenix from the ashes, the emergence of the butterfly from the caterpillar or the flight of a dove; it’s all symbolic of one thing - the flight of FREEDOM.

Becoming a Christ is the ultimate ideal from the point of view of humanity. It is the crowning glory. Any climb down from that point is a compromise to any evolved mind. At the same time, we must realize that our own evolution progresses at the rate of our own acceptance of new knowledge and its integration into our lives; which can only come from our own desires and willingness to open ourselves up ‘to know’.

A friend recently said to me, "you can do anything". This I found to be inspiring but is it a question of what we can do or what we can be? For instance, can we train our minds to be everything and nothing at the same time; just like God is? Or is our viewpoint always going to be limited by our own design? We are the creators of our future destiny - be in no doubt about that!

Designing a new life for yourself that bears no resemblance to your past and then choosing to live as the butterfly instead of continuing to be a caterpillar; is a hard task indeed. Why is this? It is because change is uncomfortable, not only for yourself but for those that observe it in you. You are moving forward in your life and they are standing still. They can no longer relate to you because you are at a loftier vantage point and you have to continue to play the game with them, if you still want them in your life. Can you really afford to compromise or do you fly away and leave them standing in their own confusion, hoping that one day they will follow your lead?

The more spiritually advanced we become the more difficult we find it is to fit in with the accepted values of society. We eventually reach a point when we cease trying to ‘fit in’ and realize it is only our truth that matters to us. This is why it is said that a Christ is crippled by the consciousness of humanity; an impeccable entity can no longer effectively operate here amongst a lower intelligence. There will no longer be any desire in such an entity to partake of the consciousness here.

In the absence of your own ideal, there is one ideal that you can focus upon, that is not currently in abundance in human consciousness. It is unconditional Love. Moving your mind to the blue window can be the structure (the skeleton if you like) of the butterfly you are trying to unfold from within. In love there is no lack; there is not the loss of energy that occurs when the energy is fractured into polarities.

In practice, being more loving is a matter of changing one’s attitude. For instance, can you replace a lustful attitude with a loving one? You can if it is your will to do so. Can you move beyond your pain and suffering if you love yourself enough? You can if it is your will to do so. Can you let go of your need to be controlled or to be in control? You can always let go if you love unconditionally. Whatever you are perplexed by in your life, you will always find the answer in love. Are you looking out of the blue window or is your view blinded by the light (the yellow window)?

Creating a new life for ourselves is what we do in between lives in the planes of bliss. When we enter the new body it becomes almost impossible to live what we have created in bliss because the new brain has no memory of what is held in the soul. Also, the body has its own mindset from its genetic makeup and this program has a different agenda to what the soul is wishing to experience through the emotional body.

Our soul’s program is blown to smithereens by the demands of our body’s genetics and the conditioning of our minds by society. The only chance we have in life is to ‘wake up’ to this knowledge and be ‘born again’ to a new life of our own design; which, if lofty enough, will always resemble what we planned in bliss. It is better to wake up and do the planning whilst we are in the body, because then we are giving ourselves every chance of fulfilling it.

Life then is not about you acquiring more and more money or your sex life or being a somebody or keeping up with the Jones’s or living to be acceptable to others and to your society. No, it is really about fulfilling the journey of your soul in its quest for self-mastery. That’s the only thing you are supposed to do with your life - conquer it!

My observation of people shows me a conditioned pattern of living. Every society is a cult, a collection of attitudes unique to that society. For instance, here in Britain we are known for our ‘stiff upper lip’. I see that people find a place where they are happy to settle, then they go about surrounding themselves with other people and things. They go to work to maintain what they’ve got, to accrue more things and to pay for the resulting bills. Their emphasis is on acquiring ‘creature comforts’ and owning assets such as property. This all forms part of their self-created image. And some people compete with each other, as if one’s wealth is some sort of measure of a person’s greatness!

So, here in the West, the focus is on ownership of material things instead of focusing on ownership of wisdom. Such ignorance!

At the end of such a life (which is inevitable if we live like this), the soul tries to make sense of the life and search for every scrap of wisdom from it. The soul has once again been starved by the insistence on living a conditioned existence. The soul hungers for new adventures because that is where the insight into self is. Only by engaging the unknown can we eventually become wise entities.

Wisdom is the pearl we are seeking and the real reason for us being here. There is nothing wrong with owning or possessing assets but we must be mindful that their ownership is not our reason for living and that ownership or possession of assets can be a trap, if we become emotionally attached to them.

What the soul really wants is real intimacy with life. In relationships we find that people are frightened of this. They are frightened to open themselves up to others, in case they are unaccepted, talked about, mocked, ridiculed etcetera. They mistrust others because they mistrust themselves and because their past experience tells them that others are not to be trusted. Their intimate relationships are therefore not honest and open and so they compromise for physical intimacy, that only offers fleeting moments of body (chemical) ecstasy, followed by emptiness and loneliness.

For a relationship to be truly meaningful, it must first be found in the mind. This should be the first cornerstone of a successful relationship. Couples should talk openly to one another instead of just gossiping about each other to other parties. They should have integrity and should honor and respect each other’s right to keep personal information private.

Honesty should be the second cornerstone of the relationship because without it you will never find trust and thus not be able to confide in each other with confidence.

Thirdly, we must stop placing expectations, conditions and demands on our partners. Since when have they been accountable to us or we to them for that matter? Nobody is accountable to anybody else unless they agree to be so. We must let go of these silly control dramas.

Finally, we must all realize that everything we do in life is ultimately for the purpose of learning and that we are always going to make mistakes (how else can we learn?). When we fall into disharmony with our partners, we can either judge and criticize them or forgive and love them. The same choice applies to our thinking about ourselves. If we choose the former attitude, it just shows our lack of understanding of the situation and disharmony will prevail. However, the latter attitude will gradually move our relationships to superconscious levels. So be it.

If our intimate relationships are founded on the above four cornerstones, we will have meaningful, monogamous, fulfilling experiences; the product of which will be the birthing of a superconscious generation and thus a superconscious society.

We have experienced the sexual revolution and the freedom that has brought us all. But it has also brought disease and the further degradation of our society. It is now time for us all to become more mindful in our relationships with others. For the sake of future generations and for the health of our planet, let us all start a new life together and let us start it now; before it’s too late!

This is a sample chapter from the book 'Becoming a Christ' by Gary Bate. For more details please go to:





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