- Self-blame, self-criticism, or constantly putting others
down through guilt, blame, shame, or faultfinding. Finding
- Over or underachieving, -eating, -working, -doing, etc.
- Playing the victim, rationalizing that outside
circumstances are the causes of your problems.
- Not taking responsibility for your own life; turning power
over to another to make decisions for you, then feeling
victimized if the results are not to your liking.
- Taking too much responsibility for the lives of others,
dominating and making decisions for them.
- Fear of change and reluctance to take risks. Or too much
change, taking dangerous, unwise risks.
- Constant negativity or being so optimistic that reality is
- Reacting to others with extreme emotion or no emotion.
- Boastfulness, lying, embellishing, exaggerating, and
overbearing behavior around others.
- Inability to maintain integrity during interactions with
- Demanding to be “right,” needing to have agreement or
have your own way most of the time, or constantly
acquiescing to the will and opinions of others.
- Constantly comparing yourself to others, thereby feeling
inferior or superior.
- Black/white, either/or thinking; e.g., believing that a
person is either good or bad based on rigid standards of
- Having pervasive deep-seated feelings of fear, terror, or
- Speaking with lots of shoulds, oughts, could haves, and
- Interpreting the hurtful words or actions of others as
proof of your unworthiness.