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(revised edition 2007)
Rate yourself on each with a scale of 0 to 4 based upon your
current thoughts, feelings, and behaviors:
0 = I never think, feel, or behave this way.
1 = I do less than half the time.
2 = I do 50% of the time.
3 = I do more than half the time.
4 = I always think, feel, or behave this way.
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1. I like and accept myself
right now, today, even though I want to make changes in
myself, accepting that I am not perfect. |
| _____ |
2. I am worthy simply for who I
am, not what I do. I do not have to earn my worthiness. |
| _____ |
3. I get my needs met before
meeting the wants of others. I balance giving and
receiving. |
| _____ |
4. I easily release negative
feelings when other people blame or criticize me. I
realize I cannot control what other people think about
me, so I focus on living my life with integrity and to
the best of my abilities. |
| _____ |
5. I always tell myself the
truth about what I am feeling. |
| _____ |
6. I am incomparable and stop
comparing myself with other people. |
| _____ |
7. I feel of equal value to
other people, regardless of my performance, looks, IQ,
achievements, or possessions. |
| _____ |
8.I am my own authority and take
full responsibility for my choices, thoughts,
perceptions, feelings, emotions, reactions, and actions.
I do not give others credit or blame for how I am doing.
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| _____ |
9. I learn and grow from my
mistakes rather than deny them or use them to confirm my
unworthiness. |
| _____ |
10. I stop my critical self-talk
and replace it with a nurturing, kind, encouraging
voice. |
| _____ |
11. I love, respect, and honor
myself. |
| _____ |
12. I practice unconditional
love and forgiveness daily. |
| _____ |
13. I accept other people as
they are, even when they do not meet my expectations
with their behaviors and beliefs. |
| _____ |
14. I am not responsible for
anyone else’s actions, needs, thoughts, moods, or
feelings, only for my own. |
| _____ |
15. I feel my own feelings and
think my own thoughts, even when those around me think
or feel differently. |
| _____ |
16. I stop using “shoulds”
and “oughts,” which are value judgments that put me
(or others) down. (It is irrelevant what I should have
done or should do. It is more important to know what I
am willing and not willing to do and which consequences
I am willing to pay.) |
| _____ |
17. I am responsible for
changing what I do not like in my life. I face my fears
and insecurities, taking appropriate steps to heal
and grow. |
| _____ |
18. I forgive myself and others
for making mistakes and being unaware. |
| _____ |
19. I do not dominate others or
allow others to dominate me. |
| _____ |
20. I find meaning and have
purpose in my life. I believe my life counts. |
| _____ |
21. I have good physical and
emotional boundaries with others. |
| _____ |
22. I take care of myself on all
levels: physical, social, emotional, mental, and
spiritual. |
| _____ |
23. I desire to make a
contribution to the world. I develop and share my
talents and interests with others. |
| _____ |
24. I am a person of my word and
follow through on the things I commit to do. |
| _____ |
25. I spend quality time with
myself on a regular basis. |
| _____ |
26. I deserve love and
happiness. |
| _____ |
27. I get my warm and loving
feelings about myself from within myself and do not
depend on others to do this for me. |
| _____ |
28. I am lovable. |
| _____ |
29. I release unreal
expectations for myself and others. |
| _____ |
30. I choose to love and respect
all human beings regardless of their beliefs and
actions, whether or not I have a personal relationship
with them. |
This is not a test. Neither is it a precise measure of
self-esteem. Its purpose is to identify beliefs affecting
self-esteem that may need modifying. Place no judgments on your
score. Consider taking the inventory every six months to gauge
your progress. Low numbers indicate beliefs and patterns that
may be blocking you from loving, accepting, and feeling good
about yourself.
Each of these statements presents a wonderful daily
reflection opportunity. A good way to stay “tuned in” and
“tuned up” is to take one statement a day, like a vitamin
for you mind, to ponder its special meaning for you.
Each statement can be used as an affirmation to heal limiting
beliefs. Repeating them to yourself often, even out loud, helps
you change how you feel.
Use this inventory to help you understand other people, too.
Recognizing that someone has a self-esteem problem makes it
easier to have compassion and practice forgiveness.
Click here to
download a printable version of the inventory checklist in PDF
format.
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